When 30 year-old Georgetown law student Sandra Fluke tried to testify in favor of health insurance-covered contraception at a Congressional hearing (and, after being blocked by Rep. Darrell Issa R-CA, then had to issue her extremely articulate testimony via YouTube), Rush Limbaugh had this to say in return:
[She] goes before a Congressional committee and essentially says that she must be paid to have sex, what does that make her? It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex. She’s having so much sex she can’t afford the contraception. She wants you and me and the taxpayers to pay her to have sex. What does that make us? We’re the pimps. The johns.
Maureen Dowd – herself a past target of Limbaugh’s name-calling — took him down in the New York Times Sunday Review, point by point, starting with the fact that he implies that birth control is a “welfare entitlement,” when, of course, it’s not: employers and insurance companies would cover contraception, not tax dollars. And
Mother Jones pointed out that Rush, a Viagra fan, might be confusing the little blue pill and birth control, since “when and how much sex you have is unrelated to the amount of birth control you need.”
But let’s assume he wasn’t confusing the two little pills. Let’s assume he was well aware that his “welfare entitlement” remark was factually inaccurate. Let’s assume he knew exactly how wrong he was. No, wait! Let’s assume he really believed he was right – and still, rather than laying out a rational argument — he instead took the desperate-for-attention, cowardly bully’s way out. Slut! Neener neener.
Pretty much every single time we write about feminism on the HuffingtonPost, at least one or two commenters will appear, calling us ugly. Fat. Man-hating. Feminazis. Yet rarely do these haters bother to address the issue at hand, whatever we happened to be writing about on that particular day. That’s because it’s not about the issues. Tossing Pee-Wee Herman-caliber barbs is easy. Ridiculous as they may be, taking them is a little harder. I mean, I don’t think I’m ugly (calling all haters, here’s your chance to disagree!), but that doesn’t really matter. It still stings. And Limbaugh and Internet commenters and schoolyard bullies and others like them count on that: if a woman knows that standing up for, say insurance-covered birth control will have her publicly labeled a slut, she’s probably that much more likely to keep mum (and to continue shelling out for it, out of her own pocket).
It all reminds me of something I wrote about a while back, about a conversation I’d come across between journalists Joan Walsh and Gail Collins, ahead of the release of Collins’ book “When Everything Changed: The Amazing Journey of American Women From 1960 to the Present.”
I was struck by some of what Collins said in the final clip, when Walsh asked her about Billy Jean King, who Collins frames in the book as a real-life feminist hero. Talking about the much-hyped “Battle of the Sexes,” in which King wiped the court with a not-at-the-top-of-his-game Bobby Riggs (who, even when he was at the top of his game, wasn’t all that threatening), Collins said the following:
The importance of it to me was that women who fought for women’s rights in the 60s and 70s did not get hosed down, or attacked by snarling dogs, or thrown in jail; they got laughed at. And humiliation and embarrassment was the great huge club that people used to keep women in line.
How much has really changed?
Some of Rush’s advertisers have dropped off, and President Obama himself gave Fluke a call, telling her that her parents should be proud. The Senate (barely) voted down a bill that would allow insurers and employers to deny contraception coverage based on any “religious or moral” objection. Rush “apologized.” So, that’s progress.
There are those who say Limbaugh’s whole schtick is to be outrageous. It’s about ratings, they argue. So I guess real progress will happen when grown-ups no longer choose to listen to grown men behaving like children, or defend grown men behaving like children on the grounds that it’s “entertaining.”
It’s not entertaining. It’s pathetic. And to those who may disagree, I’d love to hear it. And to those who may disagree but will instead insult me, I say: I know you are, but what am I?
Barbara Kelley
Shannon Kelley
I was appalled that that bill was even introduced to Congress in the first place. Even just putting moral issues aside, it would reintroduce a lot of health risks and problems that women are taking care of currently with birth control. Even with the “moral” concerns, it’s none of anyone’s business what someone uses their contraception for. It is sad yet true that society still uses shame to try to put women down or force them to do what they want (in this case, pay for their own birth control). I’m glad to hear that the bill was voted down, but it is frightening that it was by a fraction of the vote.
Shannon you are so NOT ugly!
Well put. The thing that strikes me the most about these issues is just how out of touch with reality it all is. It takes quite a lot of imagination to pretend that the vast majority of adults – married, unmarried, divorced, straight, gay, bi, Christian, atheist, Buddhist, and everywhere in between – have sex (gasp!), and only a tiny fraction of that sex is for reproductive purposes (double gasp!). It’s like Rick Santorum and Limbaugh are inviting us to debate in their imaginary fairy playland. Truly bizarre. To me and everyone I know, contraception is as basic as aspirin (taken by mouth, not held between knees). It’s not controversial at all. The whole thing is just surreal. How do you converse with people when you can’t even agree on what the basic facts or reality are? The maddening thing is that I don’t think these folks genuinely believe in their fantasy worlds either.
As for the crazy internet haters, I understand how it’s somehow easy to see how bonkers and insecure the commenters are, yet how difficult it can be to shrug it off. People tend to write more when they have negative and childish things to say than when they agree. It takes less effort. I think I’ve commented on this blog only once or twice even though I love seeing it pop up in the inbox and emphatically agree with nearly everything you girls say. So, for every vocal hater, there are probably at least 5 quiet supporters. I’m trying these days to put more positive energy out in the internet, which seems to need it.