So, you know that special brand of squelched eye-roll/mini-smirk you trot out whenever you find yourself cornered by your Positive Thinking-evangelizing sister/friend/coworker? Turns out, raining on her parade might be the best thing you can do for her. In a comical opinion piece in Sunday’s NYT that’ll make the cynic in you chuckle, Oliver Burkeman […]
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A Fine Mess: Why We Need to Ditch the Clutter
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, decision-making, tagged Center on Everyday Lives of Families, clutter, grass-is-greener syndrome, indecision, Jack Feuer, Jeanne Arnold, Life at Home in the 21st Century: 32 Families Open Their Doors, stress, The William Morris Project, too many choices, UCLA Magazine on July 7, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Sometimes what we need to do is clean house. I’m not necessarily talking about making your bed or doing the laundry — although either one is a good start — but channeling your inner minimalist and ditching the clutter. Both literally and figuratively. I’ve been thinking about this lately as I watched a friend make […]
Are We What We Wear?
Posted in culture, feminism, identity, Uncategorized, workplace, tagged Our differences are our strengths, Shoulder pads, Vogue on June 28, 2012| 1 Comment »
Does fashion reflect the culture, or does it sometimes shake it loose? I bring this up because we were recently on a decadent vacation and somewhere between a tamarind smoothie and a full body massage, I picked up the latest issue of Vogue and flipped to a fashion spread entitled “Risky Business.” And what did […]
The Real Lessons We Can Learn From Mad Men
Posted in culture, feminism, gender roles, worklife balance, workplace, tagged David Weigand, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Facebook, feminism, Mad Men, new male mystique, sexism, Stephanie Coontz, The Great Gatsby, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you, work-life balance on March 22, 2012| 5 Comments »
Sure, there’s been a lot of chat about everything that’s wrong with Mad Men and why women in general and feminists in particular should hate its unrepentant misogynystic guts. And let’s face it: this is a show that glorifies gin, Lucky Strikes and getting laid (by anyone but one’s spouse). What’s not to hate, right? […]
On Getting Real
Posted in being judged, culture, identity, tagged Anderson Cooper, approval, authenticity, Elizabeth Lesser, Facebook, guilt, Katie Couric, Michelle Bachmann, New York Times, Peggy Orenstein, Sarah Ferguson, Stephanie Rosenbloom, the Pope, W, wavy gravy on September 13, 2011| 62 Comments »
Be authentic. What does that even mean, anyway? Not a whole hell of a lot, according to Stephanie Rosenbloom in this Sunday’s New York Times. The word, she says, has been watered down to the point of meaninglessness, like so many white wine spritzers. Everyone from Anderson Cooper to Sarah Ferguson to Katie Couric to […]
In The News
Posted in on July 18, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Here’s a select list of some of the buzz Undecided has generated: PRINT: Psychologies, July 7, 2014: “How to Make a U-Turn” Comstock’s Magazine, March 2012: “Feel the Burn” Santa Clara Magazine, January 2012: “Future Imperfect” The Weekly Herald, December 8, 2011: “Best of 2011: Business, society, science & God” Daily Mail, November 29, 2011: […]
Women Role Models: The Weaker The Better?
Posted in culture, feminism, why women?, workplace, tagged Carina Cochano, Elizabeth Lesser, hollywood, New York Times on July 5, 2011| 2 Comments »
So says Carina Chocano, anyway, in Sunday’s New York Times: enough with the “strong female characters,” she writes, give ’em to us weak. Strangely, I think she has a point. And while I take issue with her choice of words, I think there’s a lesson in here for those of us in real life, too. Where […]
Perfection: A Zero Love Game
Posted in being judged, culture, feminism, identity, why women? on September 15, 2009| 10 Comments »
I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about Barbara’s post from last week, Choosing the Iconic Self, about how women–now freed from the simple definitions of either wife or daughter–struggle to define our authentic Self, and wind up trapped by the iconic image of whatever dream-self we aspire to become, saddling each choice with a […]