One time, long long ago, in a kingdom far, far away, my mom said to me, “Shannon, I feel as though I haven’t given you enough advice.” To which I replied: “Shut the f*** up, mom.” (Trust me; she’s given me plenty.) And yet, get a group of women gathered together in the presence of […]
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Shelter From The ShouldStorm
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", feminism, identity, tagged "What should I do with my life?", Gloria steinem on February 4, 2010| Leave a Comment »
How The Pursuit of Happiness Makes Us Crazy.
Posted in culture, grass-is-greener, identity, Paradox of Women's Declining Happiness, tagged "the shoulds", Consumer culture, Daniel Gilbert, Eric Hoffer, expectations, Facebook, happiness, New York Times, perfection, Ruth Whippman, Stumbling on Happiness, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you on September 28, 2012| 1 Comment »
The last time our family got together — finding all of us in the same zipcode at the same time is a rare and wondrous feat — we hunkered down in a suite at the Holiday Inn Express (Backstory not important). With no bar or restaurant in sight, our family of foodies trekked to the […]
Reuniting With The Inner Geek
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", being judged, decision-making, identity, why women?, tagged adolescent angst, being judged, reunions, the tyranny of the shoulds, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you on September 21, 2012| Leave a Comment »
I received a terrifying letter in the mail the other day: an invitation to a grade school reunion. As in eighth grade. Ew, right? The very thought sent chills up my spine. Did I really want to revisit my adolescent self? Does anyone? Now, I am old enough to know that every one of us, […]
My Moment with Michelle: Why “No Answer” Is The Right Answer
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", decision, decision-making, gender roles, gender roles, tagged DNC, gender roles, having it all, Michelle Obama, Parade Magazine, Undecided, Women in Transition, Women News on September 7, 2012| 2 Comments »
I had a serendipitous moment with Michelle Obama last week — just a few days before her transcendent speech at the DNC. The occasion was an interview with the First Couple by Lynn Sherr and Maggie Murphy in Parade, the supplement that shows up in many local Sunday papers. I almost tossed the magazine aside, […]
What Girls Can Learn From Olympic Grrrrrrrrrrrl Power
Posted in culture, feminism, gender roles, identity, tagged Elizabeth Gilbert, failure, Gabby Douglas, girl power, Gloria steinem, Jordyn Weiber, Kerri Walsh, London Olympics, Missy Franklin, Misty May-Treanor, NBCBayArea, Ramani Durvasula, risk-taking on August 3, 2012| 2 Comments »
The other day after I got home from my run (I use the term advisedly), I got a call from the local NBC affiliate asking for a quick interview on the overall impact of “girl power” in this year’s Olympics. Within ten minutes, the reporter and her cameraman were on their way. While dashing around […]
A Fine Mess: Why We Need to Ditch the Clutter
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, decision-making, tagged Center on Everyday Lives of Families, clutter, grass-is-greener syndrome, indecision, Jack Feuer, Jeanne Arnold, Life at Home in the 21st Century: 32 Families Open Their Doors, stress, The William Morris Project, too many choices, UCLA Magazine on July 7, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Sometimes what we need to do is clean house. I’m not necessarily talking about making your bed or doing the laundry — although either one is a good start — but channeling your inner minimalist and ditching the clutter. Both literally and figuratively. I’ve been thinking about this lately as I watched a friend make […]
Let’s Talk About Sex
Posted in culture, feminism, gender roles, Millenials, why women?, tagged "Girls", backlash, erica jong, feminism, Frank Bruni, gender differences, Gloria steinem, Hanna Rosin, HBO, Lena Dunham, New York Times, Rick Santorum, sex, sexual revolution, The Daily Beast, uncharted territory, Wall street Journal on April 3, 2012| 1 Comment »
Everyone else seems to be. They’re talking about women and sex and “Girls” and sex and feminism and sex and HBO and sex and the sexual revolution as failure and the sexual revolution as success. It feels a little weird to be writing this, honestly, being that it’s 2012 and all. But with whom and […]
Oh Wow: The Meaning of Life
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, grass-is-greener, life choices, purpose, tagged Apple, mona simpson, Steve Jobs, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you on November 3, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Of all the words that have been spoken or written (ours included) about Steve Jobs in the past few weeks, the wisest and most meaningful may have come from the eulogy delivered by his sister, novelist Mona Simpson, who recently shared it with the New York Times. By now, you have probably read Simpson’s opening: […]
Self, How Did I Get Here?
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", decision-making, tagged Apple, approval, being judged, choices, expectations, failure, follow your passion, living authentically, Stanford University, Steve Jobs, trade-offs, tyranny of the shoulds on October 11, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Last week during all the memorializing of Apple founder/college dropout/cultural visionary Steve Jobs, I found myself watching the commencement speech he gave at Stanford University in 2005 — and, in all that wisdom, one line in particular gave me the chills: Don’t Live Someone Else’s Life, he said. Actually, what he said was: Your time […]