If we want to close the ambition gap, a good first step might be learning how to shake our heads. There’s this great quote from Feminist icon Germaine Greer: When we talk about women having it all, what they really have all of is the work.” She was being somewhat facetious. But then again, not […]
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Repeat After Me: Just Say No.
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", gender roles, workplace, tagged Ambition gap, Emory University, Germaine Greer, Pleasers, Serena Chen, University of California at Berkeley, Wall street Journal, workplace on January 22, 2013| 1 Comment »
There is No Having It All, There is No Perfect (and, Spoiler Alert: There is No Santa Claus Either)
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, feminism, gender roles, identity, psychology of choice, why women?, worklife balance, workplace, tagged Ann Marie Slaughter, choices, Debora Spar, feminism's unfinished work, having it all, jugging, multitasking, perfection, pressure, public policy, The Daily Beast, the workplace, trade-offs, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you, unfinished work, us vs. them on September 24, 2012| 1 Comment »
So, the subject of our book is certainly in the air as of late. First, Ann Marie Slaughter, and now, a piece on The Daily Beast by Debora Spar, whose take on the issues of women chasing perfection, juggling roles and choices in a not-adequately-changed world was, frankly, so similar to the things we’ve written […]
Have It All? Why We’re Asking the Wrong Question.
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", feminism, life choices, worklife balance, workplace, tagged Anne-Marie Slaughter, Atlantic, expectations, female role models, having it all, Hillary Clinton, Lisa Belkin, Michelle Obama, Myra Strober, opportunity cost, Oprah, parenthood, Sheryl Sandbert, worklife balance, workplace structures on June 21, 2012| 3 Comments »
I woke up this morning to a message from a former student who’d sent me a link to Anne-Marie Slaughter’s cover story in the new Atlantic. If you haven’t seen it yet, it’s a brilliant piece that lays out the reasons why women still can’t have it all — and what we as a society […]
More Americans Than Ever Are Living Single. Here’s Why.
Posted in culture, psychology of choice, quarterlife, too many choices, Uncategorized, why women?, tagged "All the Single Ladies", "Emerging Adulthood", "Going Solo", being single, choices, commitmentphobia, Dominique Browning, Eric Kilnenberg, having it all, Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, Kate Bolick, Melanie Kurtin, New York Times, settling, The Atlantic, too many choices, trade-offs on February 14, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Flying solo is in–in a serious way. A New York Times Q&A with Eric Kilnenberg, NYU sociology professor and author of the new book “Going Solo,” leads with the facts: In 1950, 22 percent of American adults were single. Now that number is almost 50 percent. One in seven adults lives alone. Half of all […]
Women and Ambition: The Godfather Sets Us Straight
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, economy, feminism, gender roles, tagged Apocaplypse Now, Cameron Bailey, Francis Ford Coppola, Fresh Air, Navy wives, The Godfatehr II, The Godfather I, Toronto International Film Festival on November 29, 2011| Leave a Comment »
You might say we’ve come a long way, Baby, when even a(n older) man recognizes that it’s most often women who make the career sacrifices. This isn’t just any man we’re talking about here — but none other than Francis Ford Coppola who, I will be the first to admit, is a genius. Back in […]
Burn Me Up, Burn Me Out?
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, job-changing, life choices, Millenials, why women?, workplace, tagged expectations, forbes.com, Larissa Faw, Melanie Shreffler, millennials, Teri Thompson, Treadmill mentality, Ypulse on November 17, 2011| 3 Comments »
The other day, I got a ping from a former student who sent a link to a recent piece she’d read over on Forbes.com. “Have you seen this?” she wrote. “It reminds me of Undecided!” The topic? Burn-out. Apparently, it’s rampant among high achieving millennial women. At least that’s the skinny according to a piece […]
Oh Wow: The Meaning of Life
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", culture, grass-is-greener, life choices, purpose, tagged Apple, mona simpson, Steve Jobs, Undecided: How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find a career -- and life -- that works for you on November 3, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Of all the words that have been spoken or written (ours included) about Steve Jobs in the past few weeks, the wisest and most meaningful may have come from the eulogy delivered by his sister, novelist Mona Simpson, who recently shared it with the New York Times. By now, you have probably read Simpson’s opening: […]
So, What Do You Do?
Posted in "What should I do with my life?", being judged, identity, job-changing, why women?, tagged Lori Gottlieb, Marie Claire, Sarah Z. Wexler on October 18, 2011| 1 Comment »
A perfectly reasonable question, right? It’s social shorthand for “who are you?” a convenient fall-back in the face of awkward silence or prolonged mingling; polite, simple, safe chit-chat. Um, right? Well, consider: A couple of years ago, I reconnected with an old friend who’d since moved to Alaska. I asked him what it was like […]